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| Category: Addiction Counselors |
Date published: October 21, 2003 |
How Can I Help My Teenager with His Drug-Addiction?
by Anisa Aven
Q: My son, who is 20, is addicted to drugs, and I have lost contact with him. Meanwhile, I am not handling any friendships correctly at this time. I seem to be in a vortex and am desperately seeking a way out. Please give me some guidance as to where to seek direction.
A: I can only imagine your frustration, and pain. I can only speculate at all of the sleepless nights and tearful pleas that you've made to your son, and others for help, guidance, and advice. As a mother of two, I must personally acknowledge that the simple solution that I am about to present, WILL work, but I also know it will not likely be EASY. For me, the most difficult area of my life to apply the principles of Truth is in the area of parenting, and protecting my children. The reason is because the more we care, the more we want one thing but FEAR another, the more difficult it is to let go, make peace, and have faith in the Laws of the Universe.
If you allow your past, to influence the way you feel about him now, then you will be holding a vibration that looks like more of the same. If your fear is "he's going to end up in jail, or dead," then you want to STOP supporting that creation now by putting your attention elsewhere.
Let me make one thing VERY clear. You CAN NOT create in another's reality. If his point of attraction is in alignment with a hard life, you can do NOTHING to un-create or prevent this. There is always a Divine Order to life, even when we don't understand or want it to be that way. And, unless you change your point of attraction you will actually be supporting his demise, his self-mutilation, by your fear making it even easier to maintain. Your vibration will only continue to support his drug habit, your challenged relationship, your feeling of loss and disconnection, and you will continue to be disappointed by your own behavior in relationship with others, as this is already affecting you.
However, if you are willing to be courageous, then you can at bare minimum stop supporting his "negative creation" by putting your attention elsewhere. This will also put your life, and relationships back in positive order as well.
To do this, first - surrender to the worst case scenario coming true. Do not resign or accept the worst but surrender to "the Divine Order is at hand. Whatever is meant to be will and I surrender to it. I will survive and I'll be okay no matter what. I cannot create in my son's reality, and if it's meant to be that he goes to jail, so be it. I'll survive. If it's meant to be that he kills himself, so be it, I can't do anything about it. I don't like it, it's not what I want, but worrying about it only makes it worse, therefore I let it go. I hand this over to the Divine Presence, and I refuse to fear, or fight this any longer. If it's part of his life path, to have a difficult life, so be it. I surrender my fears now. I surrender to the worst case scenarios coming true. I surrender to the Divine Order, and I find peace in this now." You must allow yourself to cry, and feel the pain of what that might actually mean.
If after surrendering, you feel depressed, then you have NOT actually surrendered, but instead you've given up. Go back and do it again until you feel peace. You are simply handing it over to God and refusing to fear it any longer.
Once you've created a foundation of peace, and really feel yourself being strong enough to survive anything, you can move into a more intentional place of being able to support a healthier lifestyle for your son.
Now, shift your perspective from fear about what's happening to "everything is in order and what I want is.... for my son to be happy; for my son to be healthy, whole and vibrantly living his life on purpose; for my son to be loved and to know that he is a Divine child of God; for my feelings about my son to be confident, secure, at ease, at peace; for my expectation of my son's life to be positive - I am confident that he will work this out and it will turn out perfect for him, it can be no other way."
Then, when you're feeling confident and at ease, shift from I want... to I intend.... "I intend to see my son as healthy and on his right path. I intend to be positive, loving, kind, and confident that all is well." See the difference?
Here's some more good news. From working with troubled teens on the spiritual principles of manifesting, I've discovered that when they "get it" - they REALLY get it, on a deeper and more easily accessible level than the rest of us. Therefore, what you can do right now is reach out to your son, mentally and spiritually first. What I mean is, you never really lose contact. He's there spiritually with you right now. He feels your energy, and if you close your eyes, and send love to him daily - every time you think of him, you will feel his energy too. This love will begin the healing process, even before you ever experience the physical proof of it.
Additionally, you have an opportunity now, to help him pre-pave the rest of his life. You can't change the past but you can choose in this moment not to let it affect your future or your expectations of your son's future. Do you remember what it was like to imagine the wonderful life you dreamed your son would have? Go back to those fantasies, and imagine them again, as they are more important now than ever.
As for your life, you have to dig deep and do the same thing for yourself. You have to find a way to surrender, identify what you want, intend to have it and then flow with the process. Be easy on yourself. Things are getting better and better with every breath.
Written & Copyrighted by Anisa Aven, Want to learn more about manifesting your dreams? Visit http://www.creatavision.com/creative_manifesting.htm and receive Anisa's Conscious Creation 101, 5-part e-course on the basics of manifesting, for FREE! You may also reach Anisa at www.CreataVision.com and www.ManifestingProsperity.com
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