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| Category: Emotional Healing |
Date published: November 29, 2006 |
 Being Hurt
When someone hurts you or lets you down in some way, it often occurs when you least expect it. So when it happens, it has an impact on your self-esteem. You ask yourself, "Why did this happen to me? What did I do to deserve this? Why am I so sensitive? Why am I taking this to heart?" You have a way of blaming yourself and it chips away at your confidence.
Being so honest about how you feel leaves you emotionally wide open and vulnerable. These feelings raise fears in you of being wide open for attack and more hurt. So to protect yourself, you show the world that it doesn't hurt you by putting up the brave front and decide not to share any part of yourself with anyone ever again!
If you allowed your pain to show, you would appear weak and not in control. What you are doing is camouflaging how you feel and denying it ever happened. But deep down inside it eats away at you and you feel yourself stewing over it. You are aware the emotions are still present. Does this sound familiar?
Honouring yourself keeps your energy levels high and plays and integral role in your self-trust. This in turn promotes a more healthy relationship with yourself. When you don't own your emotions and push them down inside, it has a detrimental impact on your vitality. Being aware of how you feel and allowing your emotions to be present stops you wasting energy on worrying. Quite often we create dramatic and tragic scenes in our minds and this causes our energy levels to drop. Thinking of the worst case scenario is a way many of our generation were raised and has become a way of living.
Alternatively, focussing on what makes you feel good is uplifting and revitalising. It is fulfilling and gives you higher levels of energy. It increases your creativity, gives you strength, you feel more peaceful and relaxed. You may feel as though there are more hours in the day because your energy lasts longer and you achieve much more than usual. A sense of freedom is enhanced by not falling prey to your negative emotions.
There is an array of emotions you may be feeling. For example, sadness, hurt, upset, anger, vengeance, grief, fear, defeat or depression. Recognising any of these emotions allows you to be in touch with who you are and strengthens your relationship with self. When you are aware of how you feel, simply accept what you are feeling and totally be in that emotion. You can do this by submerging yourself in the feeling. If sadness is what you are experiencing, be in the state of sadness and allow yourself to totally be emersed.
When you have a physical reaction in your body, you know you are there. You may shed tears, your heart may race, you may perspire or you might just feel numb. (Crying can be a symbol of releasing emotion and is very powerful. Tears are a strength, not a weakness.) It may feel uncomfortable at first and you may experience resistance. Know the benefits far outweigh the process. By allowing this process to take place, the emotion can be released forever. Letting go of the emotion at the time enables you to spend more energy focussing on the wonderful experiences in your life rather than being dragged down by ones that hurt you.
Acceptance is the key. Say to yourself " I am feeling angry" and be angry. Don't deny yourself the satisfaction of being the emotion. You won't get stuck there forever. It is only to feel the anger as it releases out of your body. Let go of the toxicity it may create if left there. Quite often we fight the way we feel because we know we shouldn't feel that way. Ignoring how you feel not only enhances the emotion, it adds fuel to the fire by creating guilt as well. The cycle then repeats and gets stronger stripping us of more vital energy. Simply allow your emotions to surface and release.
Surround yourself with positive, passionate people and love yourself.
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